Had a discussion with a few friends about it this weekend about this issue and im sure that some of you out there has been involved or have witness this kind of social experience.
Have you experienced or noticed a friend who gets into a relationship and once they are in the relationship that they cut all contact with you and all his/her friends? why do people do such a thing when they get into a relationship? is it a natural thing to not talk to your friends anymore?
whats worse is when the friend is out of the relationship they start talking and hanging out to you like everything is back to normal when it clearly isn't.
Why do people do this? dont they know that they have done something wrong by not keeping in touch with their friends and seems to be okay that everything is back to normal? Well clearly they need to know what is right and whats not and if they feel that everything is normal.. you have got to let them earn your friendship again and make sure its back to that level it was before they were in a relationship.
I feel that you need a balance in life. Spending time with the person in the relationship and also have time for your friends. Its not much to ask for and it gives you a good balance by prolonging your relationship and also your friendship.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Greatest Irony of Love
Loving the right person at the wrong time, having the wrong person when the time is right, and finding out you love someone right after that person walks out of your life... And sometimes, you think you're already over a person, but when you see them smile at you, you'll suddenly realize that you're just pretending to be over them just to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again...
For some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much you love the person...In my opinion, some are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else... Most relationships tend to fail not because the absence of love. Love is always present. It's just that one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little..
As we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. Maybe that's the reason why the heart is not always right...
Most often, we fall in love with the person we think we love but to only discover that for them, we are just for past times, while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger...
So here's a piece of advice: Let go when you're hurting too much. Give up when love isn't enough, and move on when things are not like before... For sure, there is someone out there who will love you even more...
For some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much you love the person...In my opinion, some are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else... Most relationships tend to fail not because the absence of love. Love is always present. It's just that one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little..
As we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. Maybe that's the reason why the heart is not always right...
Most often, we fall in love with the person we think we love but to only discover that for them, we are just for past times, while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger...
So here's a piece of advice: Let go when you're hurting too much. Give up when love isn't enough, and move on when things are not like before... For sure, there is someone out there who will love you even more...
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Friends With Disappointments
You got friends with benefits which is good but on the other side its Friends with Disapointments which is the dark side of it all. Have you ever asked a friend to hang out and your friend cant?ever faced a friend who made a promise and didnt keep it? how about a friend that let you down? im sure that most of us has been on the recieving end of it but how do we handle such a disapointment over and over again? one of my close friends is like that. when i call my friend out to hang or do something it tends to be a "yeah, sure" and then 2 mins later they are like nah i cant anymore, like how can ones mind change within a space of 2 mins and i found out that the person wasnt doin anything in the end just lazing at home doin shit all. how anti social can one person be? and imagine it happening over and over again.
Friends are suppose to be there for each other. im not a person to get something in return when answering to their call or plan but i guess it would be good at least once in a while that they are there for you whenever called for. Would you even call this person a friend anymore, i think not.if they keep dragging you down ask yourself this, why would you let someone disapoint you and yet still call them friend or cut the tie?
also do you realise that a friend u have known for a few months would be better than a friend you have known for several years.
Friends are suppose to be there for each other. im not a person to get something in return when answering to their call or plan but i guess it would be good at least once in a while that they are there for you whenever called for. Would you even call this person a friend anymore, i think not.if they keep dragging you down ask yourself this, why would you let someone disapoint you and yet still call them friend or cut the tie?
also do you realise that a friend u have known for a few months would be better than a friend you have known for several years.
Social Climbers
Dont ya just hate it when someone social climbs you?
Social climbing is when someone dogs you for friends of higher status. i just hate the fact when that does happen to me that the person has to rub it in that they are now closer friends than i am and that they are in a higher position. I dont need that kind of caper around. I have had a situation where i was friends with this person and when i intro'ed the person to my friends, the person started hanging out with them and didnt talk or hung out with me. and then the person jumped onto another group of friends and so on with the same treatment in not talking or hanging out with those groups. but later ended up with no friends cause they climbed the social ladder and knew what was expect and the treatment of the friends after jumping that the person ended up having no friends and to a point where the person wasnt invited anywhere cause they knew what the person would be capable of and would act fake in a way just to be your friend again.
on that note and some advice. appreciate the friends you have and dont jump onto another group just cause they have a higher status, diversify, invite and enjoy.
Social climbing is when someone dogs you for friends of higher status. i just hate the fact when that does happen to me that the person has to rub it in that they are now closer friends than i am and that they are in a higher position. I dont need that kind of caper around. I have had a situation where i was friends with this person and when i intro'ed the person to my friends, the person started hanging out with them and didnt talk or hung out with me. and then the person jumped onto another group of friends and so on with the same treatment in not talking or hanging out with those groups. but later ended up with no friends cause they climbed the social ladder and knew what was expect and the treatment of the friends after jumping that the person ended up having no friends and to a point where the person wasnt invited anywhere cause they knew what the person would be capable of and would act fake in a way just to be your friend again.
on that note and some advice. appreciate the friends you have and dont jump onto another group just cause they have a higher status, diversify, invite and enjoy.
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